Everyone can benefit from good psychotherapy sometime in his or her life.
We all stumble somewhere on life’s journey or find ourselves going round in circles, rather than moving on.
Exhaustion, worry, negative rumination, poor sleep, sadness, irritability, loneliness - these are all signs that life is out of balance.
It may be that you are wondering what it’s all about or ‘why bother?’ - that you feel undervalued or out of control of important things in your life.
Do you indulge in addictive behaviours, feel bored, or are you worried that ‘this is all there is’?
If your answer is ‘yes’ to any or more of the above, it is definitely time to find a good psychotherapist. The good news however, is that you have come into the world with a treasure chest of resources in the form of personal talents and attributes that will help you.
Where you fall, is where you will find your most precious and needed gifts: all of which are there to be harnessed so that you can become yourself more fully. The painful feelings are indicators that your innate emotional needs are no longer being met.
What can you expect from therapy sessions?
The best modern practice of psychotherapy is brief (4-6 sessions), informed by science and solution-focussed. It will enable you to:
- Stop misusing your resources - like conjuring up scary ‘what if’ scenarios with your imagination, instead of thinking up solutions;
- Reactivate under-used resources;
- Teach you skills you might not have, like organisation, how to make choices, or improve your communication skills.
Whether from movies or word of mouth, you may have a vision of what psychotherapy is like. You will be surprised at how easily a good psychotherapist will re-ignite in you a sense of purpose and meaning, a sense of connection with yourself, with others and the bigger world. It can be a liberating act of self-development rather than a cathartic purge into the past.
In Part II of Can Psychotherapy Help Me? I’ll discuss habits and behaviours which you might have mistaken for personal character traits. These are your own out-dated survival strategies which now prevent you from growing and flourishing. Therapy will help you break out of these constraints…
Renée van der Vloodt ( M.A. , FHGI ) is a therapist and coach – and has had a private practice for over 20 years, which is now based from the Elysian Centre in Rye, East Sussex.
Renée is the author of the CD Calm the Chaos of the Creative Mind and works with children and adults as a coach and therapist to help them overcome life's challenges and emotional difficulties including stress, burnout, anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), anger or addictive behaviour.